Wedding day finally arrives….In Bengali wedding “bor” or the groom has to wear “topor” on his head and white “dhoti”. But these days groom usually wear ready-made dhoti of different colors to give the best look on his wedding day.
Relatives of the bride go to the groom’s house for bringing the groom and his companions (bor jatri). “Bor” means the “groom” and “boron” means “welcome”. Bride’s elderly relatives bless him with “dhaan-durba”, gives the “topor” and “mala” (floral garland) for marriage. The groom also holds “torpon” in his hand.
Groom’s mother blesses him before he sets out for the big event of his life. Normally mother of the groom stays inside the home when the groom goes for wedding (as there is tradition of mother not witnessing wedding of the son).
Kula or the bamboo winnow is moved around the groom by his mother.
Groom’s mother is gifted with saree and other gifts before the groom is taken from his mother’s lap.
Entry of the groom can be filmy sometimes depending on the wedding planning (check out blog 10 Ways to make your Indian wedding a memorable one!). Groom arrives at the “biye bari” or the wedding venue at scheduled time with his friends and relatives called “bor jatri”.
Mother of the bride welcomes the groom at the gate or entry point with “kula” (bamboo winnow). Certain rituals are performed there like blessing with “dhaan-durba”, touching the forehead of the groom with egg etc. Married women present there make “uludhwani”.
Mother of the bride blesses the groom with betel leaf. While all these rituals are going on at the entry point “bor jatri” or the companions of the groom draped in their best attire have to patiently wait.
The groom is welcomed with sweets and flower bouquet.
Younger sisters-brothers and friends of the bride most of the time place the demand to give the price for entering inside the “mandap”.
Most of the time the groom arrives at wedding venue just before completion of “lagna” or wedding time. So the bride’s relatives hurry up and take the groom to the mandap (Sometimes this trick saves the groom from paying entry price (demanded by “sis n bro-in laws”) then and there but later on he takes them to the restaurants, movies etc.).
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